Friday, November 22, 2013

Workin' Out the Kinks - On Chains, Ropes, & Other Things

"Sticks and stones may break my bones, but whips and chains excite me"

Guurl, I started saying that before Rihanna made it popular!

The worlds of kink and fetish are hard to explain, and often associated with taboos. Why? Well, they're weird to some, they can sometimes look violent, and they scare old ladies. Tell grandma not to go browsing the internet for that cream pie recipe she's been looking for or she'll have a stroke.

I'd say that a majority of society like their sex the same way my sister likes her ice cream: straight-up vanilla. There's nothing wrong with that! But if it's all you're used to, then kink looks scary. Let's shine a light on it, shall we?

Kink is an umbrella term used for any kind of sexual practice that goes beyond what we consider normal or conventional. Some of these are widely known, but there are a good many that are overlooked. They can range from BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, Masochism), Threesomes, Orgies, Scat play, or Dominance/Submission. The D/S one is more of a lifestyle, really, but that's something I'll explain in a little while.

Age play - Similar to Infantilism, in which both/all partners refer to each other as mommy/baby, daddy/daughter, etc. This does not include nor imply aspects of incest, rather the use of teacher/student roles.
Anal plugs (small and large) - These nifty devices can be used during sex and even worn publicly, underneath clothing. They can be used for pain training, or simply just for fun.
Animal roles
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders)
Aromas - Scent is a very powerful thing. Aromas can be used to sexually/mentally simulate yourself and others.
Asphyxiation (choking/being choked)
Auctioned for charity
Ball stretching
Bathroom use control
Beating (soft)
Beating (hard)
Being serviced (sexual)
Being bitten
Breast/chest bondage
Breath control
Boot worship
Bondage (light)
Bondage (heavy)
Bondage (multi-day)
Bondage (public, under clothing)
Breast whipping
Brown showers (scat)
Cages (locked inside of)
Castration fantasy
Cattle prod (electrical toy)
Cells/Closets (locked inside of)
Chamber-pot use
Chastity belts
Chores (domestic service)
Cock rings/straps
Cock worship
Collars (worn in private)
Collars (worn in public)
Competitions (with other subs)
Corsets (wearing casually)
Corsets (trained waist reduction)
Cuffs (leather)
Cuffs (metal)
Diapers (wearing)
Diapers (wetting)
Diapers (soiling)
Double penetration
Enemas (for cleansing)
Enemas (retention/punishment)
Enforced chastity
Erotic dance (for audience)
Examinations (physical)
Exercise (forced/required)
Exhibitionism (friends)
Exhibitionism (strangers)
Eye contact restrictions
Face slapping
Fantasy abandonment
Fantasy rape
Fantasy gang-rape
Fear (being scared)
Fisting (anal & vaginal)
Flame play
Following orders
Food play (cucumbers, sorbet...)
Foot worship, bedwetting, dressing, eating, homo/heterosexuality, masturbation, nudity in private/public, servitude, smoking)
Full head hoods
Gags (cloth, inflatable, phallic, rubber, tape)
Gas mask
Gates of Hell (male chastity device)
Genital sex
Given away to another Dom (permanent or temporary)
Golden showers
Gun play
Hairbrush spankings
Hair pulling 
Hand jobs (giving/receiving)
Harems (serving w/other subs)
Harnessing (leather, rope)
Having food/clothing chosen for you
Head (give or receive fellatio/cunnilingus)
High heels
Homage with tongue (non-sexual)
Hot oils (on genitals)
Hot waxing
Housework (doing)
Human puppy dog
Humiliation (private/public)

Ice cubes
Initiation rites
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage
Knife play
Leather clothing
Leather restraints
Lectures for misbehavior
Licking (non-sexual)
Lingerie (wearing)
Manacles & irons
Manicures (giving)
Massage (giving)
Massage (receiving)
Medical scenes
Modeling for erotic photos
Mouth bits
Name change (for scene)
Name change (legal, permanant)
Nipple clamps
Nipple rings (piercings)
Nipple play/"torture"
Nipple weights
Oral/anal play (rimming)
Over-the-knee spanking
Orgasm denial
Orgasm control
Outdoor scenes
Outdoor sex
Pain (mild)
Pain (medium)
Pain (severe)
Persona training (in scene)
Personality modification (RL)
Phone sex (serving Dom)
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends)
Phone sex (commercial provider)
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce)
Piercing (permanent)
Plastic surgery
Prison scenes
Prostitution (public pretense)
Prostitution (actual)
Pony slave
Public exposure
Punishment Scene
Pussy/cock whipping
Pussy worship
Riding crops
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.)
Religious scenes
Restrictive rules on behavior
Rubber/latex clothing
Rope body harness
Saran wrapping
Scratching - getting
Scratching - giving
Sensory deprivation
Serving (as ashtray, furniture, maid, for other doms with or without supervision)
Sexual deprivation (short term)
Sleep deprivation
Slutty clothing (private)
Speech restrictions (when, what)
Spreader bars
Straight jackets
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by)
Strapping (full body beating)
Suspension (upright, inverted, horizontal)
Supplying new partners for Dom
Swallowing urine
Swapping (with one other couple)
Thumbcuffs (metal)
Triple penetration
Vaginal dildo
Voyeurism (watching others)
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others)
Video (watching others)
Video (recordings of you)
Water torture
Weight loss (forced)

I know, there's a lot going on. But if you have any questions, please feel free to ask! I'm more than willing to do the research needed to provide you with answers about these topics. 

Did I miss something in this list? Send me a message or comment and I'll be sure to add it in for you! :)

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